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 One Couple’s Recipe for Success: Building intimacy through the art of sharing

Both stressed the beauty and opportunity in everyday life. “You don’t have to spend lots of money or try to find something exotic to do in order to have a deep connection,” Joan said. As an example, she described their morning routine. “I make our coffee as he reads the paper. He shares every story he reads with me and asks my opinion about it. Sometimes we’ll have different opinions and we get into debates. Or he’ll just nod his head and say ‘interesting’ and continue to read. I can tell he’s thinking about what I said.”

This might seem like a small event, but it speaks volumes about something very important to their relationship (and relationships in general). Ben took what is typically activity (reading the newspaper) and made it relational. When Ben includes Joan in his daily activity, he makes her feel connected to him and appreciated by him. Further, he learns from her and enjoys her as she shares her own viewpoints.

How many people do you know who read the newspaper, or get information online, and never (or rarely) share what they learn with their spouse? Do your individual activities remain solitary, or do you share your experiences with your partner?

Of course there will be activities that you and your partner do separately. But how many of these are things that—by necessity—have to be done separately how many are missed opportunities to connect with your partner? By following Ben’s lead, you can create bridges between your individual interests and your partner.

Building Bridges Action Step:

Think of all the things you’re involved in that don’t include your partner (hobbies, work, daily routines). Even if you prefer to do these activities alone (or with someone other than your partner), can you think of ways to share parts of these experiences your husband or wife? For instance, when I finish an article, I could immediately submit it and move on to the next article. From a time standpoint, that would be the easiest and most efficient thing to do. What I do instead is ask my wife to read it and share her impressions of what I’ve written. And the result? We’ve had conversations that we wouldn’t have had otherwise, discussions where we felt connected and where we talked about relationships in general and our relationship in particular.

Give this type of relational sharing a try and see what you think.


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